Ok_Dozer et al.:
Tambora had to endure something which was, in all likelihood, exceedingly psychologically (and perhaps even physically) painful/traumatic to her.
This doesn't make what she says right (nor does it make what she says wrong).
This doesn't mean you have to agree with her.
This doesn't even mean you have to like her.
But you should cut...this, whatever this is, out and leave her alone.
How would you wish to be treated in similar circumstances?
My recommendation is simply to ignore her from now on. Cease with these interactions, friendly, unfriendly or otherwise.