I think that this is part of what fuels OkDozer's posting. No person in his right mind would call the case that he's cited "rape." That said, certain women are going to cry "rape" in those circumstances, and a certain number of radical feminists are going to agree with them.
If you want to call that case "rape," then it's certainly, in the words of OkDozer, a non-violent form of rape that shouldn't be prosecuble.
A problem with this discussion is that there's equivocations and ambiguities all over the place. What constitutes rape? What constitutes consent? What constitutes lack of consent?
You or I could say one thing, but the girl in the case that OkDozer cited is going to say something else entirely.
I don't really care about those scenarios. Does anyone on TOL call that rape? :idunno: