If you really want to know, my wife and I started one of the early Right to Life local chapters back in the early 80s, when we had difficulty even getting churches involved because most of them thought it was too controversial and divisive. We grew it to a few hundred members before shifting attention to what was then a Crisis Pregnancy Center. As we got older, since we had a constant flow of young people at our home, we dealt with things on a more personal level. Everyone around knows our position, knows we aren't judgmental, that we're known for being loving and compassionate, that we are approachable, and that my wife is a therapist. When people had problems they eventually ended up in our dining room talking over a meal or cappuccino. It is much more affective than preaching at them. Then there are those meetings with state legislators and letters to Washington. Yet that only taught me that abortion is only a campaigning tool for most of them, and their secret position is that if they ever actually reversed it they would lose leverage over a fair portion of their base that are single-issue voters. If they drop the flower out of their right hand you'll notice the knife in their left.