Originally posted by granite1010
So a woman living with an abusive husband is left with no recourse but to put up and shut up? The other option being having the lout bludgeoned to death in public and leaving her destitute.
Divorce would be allowed in cases of abuse. Physical and emotional cruelty is a negation of both of the biblical principles of material and emotional support, which are the biblical rights of a marriage partner (Ex.21.10-11). It is therefore a biblical ground for divorce: Exodus 21:10-11 - "If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish. And if he do not these three unto her, then shall she go out free without money."
The above verse concerned slave wives. Thus, even slave wives, in ancient Jewish society, were protected in their marriages against spousal abuse. Therefore, God's Moral Law permits divorce if either the husband or the wife fails to honor the marriage covenant in matters pertaining to food, clothing (and shelter), reasonable sexual relations, marital faithfulness and non-violent treatment.
But an even more compelling reason for abuse being biblical grounds for divorce is the issue of desertion. It is possible for a spouse to desert a marriage without physically leaving the home. Certainly if a husband refuses to support his wife and children financially and continues unrepentant in that pattern, but continues to live with them under the same roof, we would conclude that he has “deserted” his family in the most significant
sense. He has refused to take responsibility for them. He has broken his marriage vows and does not seek to renew his adherence to them. Therefore spouse abuse would also be a ground for divorce on the basis of “desertion.” The unrepentant spouse abuser, too, has forsaken his marriage vow. He no longer loves, honors and cherishes his wife; rather he has become a threat to her life and health. Of course she would be biblically free to leave him.