We don't do those things because we love them. You're saying we can't love someone unless we obey those commandments, but you're adding conditions to love. That's called legalism, GT.
You are a legalist.
We obey
BECAUSE we love, not "we love because we obey."
Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law.For the commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not bear false witness,” “You shall not covet,” and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore
love is the fulfillment of the law. - Romans 13:8-10
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Romans13:8-10&version=NKJV
If we love our neighbors, we fulfill the entire law, because law does no harm to a neighbor. ANY OTHER COMMANDMENT to obey is fulfilled by loving God and loving one's neighbor.