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  • #31
    Originally posted by jack jackson
    I have been approached by numerous people who say that homeschooling leads to a decreased ability for the child to interact properly with other children. Is there any substance to this accusation?
    Do you have children? If so, are they in public school?
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    • #32
      Originally posted by jack jackson
      The alternatives: bullying, shootings, unsafe schools, kids picking on other kids, inadequate teachers....yes those are bad alternatives.

      erinmarie, can you provide more of an answer? I'm interested in more thoughts here.

      Thanks.
      Sorry, I was going to add more to the No, but everyone else jumped in and did such an excellent job, I thought I'd leave it up to them.

      My children are very young, so I'm not sure of how social they will or will not be yet. But Rose, my five year old hasn't had very much interaction with other children her age and she is extremely social, and outgoing. My momma says she lights up a room when she walks in.

      Do you have any children, jack?

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      • #33
        Originally posted by Crow
        By contrast, a friend's child and his public schooled buddies behave as I envision Neanderthals would. Scratch. Pick. Belch. Fart. The sound of lips smacking. Conversation: "Uh huh. Uh uh. No way. Maaaaaaannnn."
        That is why we have choosen to homeschool. We desire to raise children not monkeys.

        Now, you can right this off to being male,

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        • #34
          Originally posted by Knight
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          Yet, that seems to be the modern day philosophy for teaching kids social skills. People send their kids off to school hoping that they will pick up social skills. Well I have news for ya . . . your kids WILL LEARN social skills, BAD social skills!!!!

          Yet, homeschooled children certainly do need to practice their social skills therefore the external activities outside the house.

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          • #35
            Originally posted by Freak
            That is why we have choosen to homeschool. We desire to raise children not monkeys.

            Did I catch that right?
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            • #36
              Originally posted by beefalobilly
              I think a lot of what you have to say about public schools is kind of over-done, I mean it's not like kids go to public schools to get loaded and have sex. That stuff happens after school, and just because a kid is in church or youth group doens' tmean they won't be inovolved with that, I know plenty of kids who are regular with youth group and still go out and party and drink etc. There's always goign to be bad kids at public schools, but there's also going to be good kids who hang out together. I think if a parent has done their job, then there shouldn't be too big of a problem going to a public school.

              And girls will be berated by guys no matter where you go. It's not public schools, it's the culture and nature of people. And if you're really trying to protect your children from the influence of other people, then you'd have to cut off interaction with other people completely, there's going to be a negative influence just about anytime you interact with another person.
              I share this opinion as well. I think if a parent is going to homeschool it should be for many more reasons besides protection. For example, my wife took our oldest daughter shopping the other day at an outside flea-type market. I guess there were nutjobs all around. There were a handful of lesbians walking around, drunks, and the like. Our kids can be acosted at a park, bowling alley, skating rink, video store, and super market.

              Personally, with all things in life, I put my faith and trust in Jesus Christ and teach my kids to do the same.

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              • #37
                Originally posted by Knight
                My oldest daughter plays ice hockey and attends youth group weekly.
                Church youth group? I thought DBC was against that idea.
                grace & peace

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                • #38
                  I have children. My oldest will start school next year...maybe some kind of presschool type thing. I think we're going to try homeschooling. I knew a girl in a Bible study group several years ago who was way mature for her age. Homeschooled all the way to high school graduation. Amazing person. I'm just asking all this because I want to know what to say to people that come up to me and accuse me of depriving my kids of something by going the homeschool route. We at least want to do it until he chooses public school. Then we will prepare him for evolution, letting him know it's a THEORY, and not THE TRUTH.

                  Knight.....girls playing hockey...now that is a beautiful thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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                  • #39
                    Hey Jackson...good to see you aren't just jumping in to the homeschooling bit without getting some sage advice from those 'in the know'. There are quite a few around here on TOL who know lots, and can help, as you have presumably seen.
                    Last edited by julie21; June 25th, 2005, 03:45 AM.

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                    • #40
                      Originally posted by ebenz47037
                      There is no deficiency. My daughter, not only socializes with friends her own age, but she can talk to anyone with confidence.
                      This happens with children outside of homeschooling as well Nori. My children were not homeschooled, but have always been good communicators with adults as well as others of their own age. This is because their father and I have never 'babied' them, teaching them how to socialise with others no matter the environment they are in, as well as the perhaps 'inherited' ability to do this, as I was the same.
                      People always believe my son and daughter to be at least 3-5 years ahead of their age. They both have attended public schools, and even though they are surrounded by some very socially inept individuals, have classmates who are 'druggies' and so forth, they have been taught from a young age, that there are choices that need to be made in life.
                      I thank God that even when we were not Christians, we had the good sense to bring our children up knowing the right choices.
                      The world and all of its lures and sins is still there to be faced...its how the child is raised by their parents, and the child's attitudes that determine the paths they will take. Not necessarily whether they were home or public or private schooled.
                      Just my humble opinion based on our own situation.

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by julie21
                        This happens with children outside of homeschooling as well Nori. My children were not homeschooled, but have always been good communicators with adults as well as others of their own age. This is because their father and I have never 'babied' them, teaching them how to socialise with others no matter the environment they are in, as well as the perhaps 'inherited' ability to do this, as I was the same.
                        People always believe my son and daughter to be at least 3-5 years ahead of their age. They both have attended public schools, and even though they are surrounded by some very socially inept individuals, have classmates who are 'druggies' and so forth, they have been taught from a young age, that there are choices that need to be made in life.
                        I thank God that even when we were not Christians, we had the good sense to bring our children up knowing the right choices.
                        The world and all of its lures and sins is still there to be faced...its how the child is raised by their parents, and the child's attitudes that determine the paths they will take. Not necessarily whether they were home or public or private schooled.
                        Just my humble opinion based on our own situation.
                        I wasn't blaming my shyness on being in public school or my daughter's outgoing nature strictly on homeschooling. I was just showing the difference in our personalities.
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                        • #42
                          Originally posted by julie21
                          This happens with children outside of homeschooling as well Nori. My children were not homeschooled, but have always been good communicators with adults as well as others of their own age. This is because their father and I have never 'babied' them, teaching them how to socialise with others no matter the environment they are in, as well as the perhaps 'inherited' ability to do this, as I was the same.
                          People always believe my son and daughter to be at least 3-5 years ahead of their age. They both have attended public schools, and even though they are surrounded by some very socially inept individuals, have classmates who are 'druggies' and so forth, they have been taught from a young age, that there are choices that need to be made in life.
                          I thank God that even when we were not Christians, we had the good sense to bring our children up knowing the right choices.
                          The world and all of its lures and sins is still there to be faced...its how the child is raised by their parents, and the child's attitudes that determine the paths they will take. Not necessarily whether they were home or public or private schooled.
                          Just my humble opinion based on our own situation.

                          Right on!

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                          • #43
                            My three kids are 20, 22 and 24, and they were all homeschooled.

                            I think the idea of it leading to social deficiency was invented by somebody who either didn't understand homeschooling or was opposed to it.

                            None of them had any trouble at all adjusting to college or university life.

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                            • #44
                              Exactly. I know many people that attack it know little to nothing about it.

                              So how do I answer those people, so I don't look like a fool for wanting to homeschool?

                              (Though part of me would like to send them to school for the following two reasons: 1. We as parents get a break every day, and 2. We pay taxes into the school system, and homeschooling fails to put my tax dollars to work directly in my family, since we have to pay for all the homeschooling materials)

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                              • #45
                                Jack,

                                Why do you even care about what other people think? If you believe homeschooling is the right option for your kids, than it is the right option. You don't need to justify this decision to anybody!

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