Desert Reign reasons with a distraught mother of a homo son

[Tambora]

You have the audacity to talk about protecting families and children from the homosexual menace, while you yourselves tear apart families and drive children to despair. I don’t know why my son is gay, but I do know that God didn’t put him, and millions like him, on this Earth to give you someone to abuse. God gave you brains so that you could think, and it’s about time you started doing that.

To the lady.



OK, I get it, you are upset. It's fine to let off steam, please feel free to do. When you've done that I'd be happy for a rational discussion.

At the core of all your misguided beliefs is the belief that this could never happen to you,

Like, you mean, cancer, poverty or a seriously twisted childhood? All of which have happened to me. But please grow up, we all have problems to cope with and it is your responsibility as a parent to cope with the problem that has graced your own family.

Whether it is genetic or whether something occurs during a critical time of fetal development, I don’t know. I can only tell you with an absolute certainty that it is inborn.

Well, if it is inborn then it is either genetic or it isn't but bandying technical words about doesn't make you right. Most of us are born with tendencies to violence and aggression but we have to learn to control them.

If you want to tout your own morality, you’d best come up with something more substantive than your heterosexuality. You did nothing to earn it; it was given to you. If you disagree, I would be interested in hearing your story, because my own heterosexuality was a blessing I received with no effort whatsoever on my part.

It isn't 'heterosexuality'. It's normal sexuality. The term 'heterosexuality' is recently popularised term to take the moral overtones out of the equation. To dupe you into believing that it and homosexuality are on a par with each other. They are not. Heterosexuality = normal sexuality. Homosexuality = abnormal or unnatural sexuality.

It is so woven into the very soul of me that nothing could ever change it. For those of you who reduce sexual orientation to a simple choice, a character issue, a bad habit or something that can be changed by a 10-step program, I’m puzzled. Are you saying that your own sexual orientation is nothing more than something you have chosen, that you could change it at will? If that’s not the case, then why would you suggest that someone else can?

Your logic is alittle twisted here. Call it straw man fallacy or whatever you like. I do not suggest that someone can change their sexual orientation at will. Why? Because that is not the issue here at all! You say that you have had enough of us but obviously you haven't really had enough because you haven't learnt yet this very basic fact. The issue is NOT about sexual orientation. Homosexuals have made it an issue of sexual orientation as a means of justifying their own behaviour. The real issue is sex. What is your sex? Male or female, that is the issue. Your son is male. Or else you would not be calling him your son. That is the only issue. He is a man, that is all there is to it.

Homosexuals have invented the concept of sexual orientation to dupe you into believing that it has a scientific basis or that it has some kind of physical or cerebral origin. They want you to believe that you have no control over it. If you don't believe this then you need only look around you to see how many single people there are. I mean those who have never had sexual relations with anyone. There are a lot of them.

You religious folk just can’t bear the thought that as my son emerges from the hell that was his childhood he might like to find a lifelong companion and have a measure of happiness. It offends your sensibilities that he should request the right to visit that companion in the hospital, to make medical decisions for him or to benefit from tax laws governing inheritance.

Dead wrong again. It doesn't offend my sensibilities. As I have said many times, what people do behind closed doors is none of my concern. They understand the risks of their own actions, just as everyone does. I only say this: if you want to follow Jesus (and call yourself a Christian) then you cannot engage in homosexual acts because this is unnatural.

You use religion to abdicate your responsibility to be thinking human beings. There are vast numbers of religious people who find your attitudes repugnant. God is not for the privileged majority, and God knows my son has committed no sin

You began this piece with accusing Christians of having the audacity to talk about protecting families and yet here you are, having the audacity to tell us what God knows or doesn't know. Let God speak for himself instead of putting words into his mouth.
Please.

[patrick jane]

i did my analysis of the mom's assertions. highlighting her word choices, but i enjoyed desert's rebuttal. sometimes folks can't see another POV until somebody says it. that doesn't necessarily change their pov, but may help. she seems bitter, angry and hurt. she's coming to grips with it and trying to understand.

she should be optimistic as gays are applauded by secular hedonists and some churches, media, cub scouts, and society. apparently there's never been a better time than right now; to be gay -

btw, i have a gay cousin and i see him no differently than others. he is private about it, so the family is not "updated" on his gay love. it's just not something we discuss or focus on. i sense she feels guilty or responsible in some ways. life marches on -