Is English your first language? Where on earth did you pull that one from?
Why men won't marry you
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Is English your first language? Where on earth did you pull that one from?
1PeaceMaker
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You "just questioned it," remember? So you were just theorizing that if I wasn't my husband, I would have to be pretty butch, right? Or else you were lying when you said you were just "questioning" it.
That's what David's wife probably thought. But then David allowed himself to be led by another.
But the wife of David may have trusted God as much as you ever will. It wasn't God who failed her, but David. David who in his imperfection he made a willful, wrong choice. It happens these days too.
It can, but needn't. It depends on the context. I learned a great deal about myself and assumptions I'd made about my own internal narrative from suffering emotional disappointments...and joys too.
And Paul said it was better to not marry.
Then all I'll suggest is that you educate yourself on the studies and research that has been done about judgment centers and impact and wish you well.
God also doesn't mention the specific biological process that produces bone and muscle growth.
I think within the Christian context that's right. A context free of God isn't sound. And he also gives us parents who should train and guard us before we're ready to make those serious decisions.
I invite you to study the available literature on judgment and the prefrontal.
I'm saying what I have from the start, that before your mid twenties you're dramatically more likely to find divorce as the end of a marriage and that, not coincidentally, it is at that point that the prefrontal cortex, important in making sound judgments and impulse control, becomes the center of our processing. Before that we do a lot of deciding in an area of the brain less suited for it and more prone to mistake.
Then it would help you to be consistent with your narrative, because you related that you were miserable and even physically affected by loneliness and then you prayed, for three years, for God to send you a husband.
Somehow I knew that would be your answer...but it wouldn't be tempting God. It would be evidencing the correctness of your assertion and edifying my faith. Satan wanted to make Christ do his bidding. God rebuked him. Very different.
I disagree with you. To agree with you is contrary to good science and God's design. Twelve year olds have no business marrying, even though puberty has changed them into the beginnings of men and women. Maturity isn't biology, it's the effect of biology and experience. I think you misapprehend.
Get some help, seriously.
1PeaceMaker
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I may have AS, but I'm not stupid. I can read just fine, thank you.
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Well i guess all this together should clear things up.
You can continue to look like a desperate fool as long you like.
1PeaceMaker
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Actually, you made an error to assume the loneliness preceded prayer. Prayer actually preceded the loneliness. And during those three years I had no idea if Christ would return suddenly or what. I wasn't set on anything but wanting to be ready and knowing I'd want my spouse ready too. During that last year I was more alone than ever.
Your idea was a test to see if I could hear God, correct? That's like saying "if you are a child of God, do this" not "have faith because you are a child of God." Obedience means we don't test God or play games to get more faith. I only asked for needed miracles because I believed I would receive.
I'm not asking based on doubt there will be an answer, that's not even faith based.
The beginnings of puberty are not the completion of puberty. The completion of puberty is the beginning of adulthood. IF childish things were also put away.
1PeaceMaker
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Actually, it's just thread spam. People who want to judge can literally read the thread.
Sure. Why wouldn't I?
1PeaceMaker
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Let's see. What's clear from your post #994 is that you tried to get out of a lie.
Me: "you just actually lied that my husband posts as me"
You: "looks to me like i didnt lie about anything...."
So there's that post....
Quoting you: but i do see he posts under 1pms name to fix her "dismal failures".
Quoting you again: "usually only men, or very butch women accuse others of thinking they are a misogynist..."
Then you post me rebutting you which makes no sense without my quotations.
Then you paint yourself into a corner:
You: if i am thinking the person was your husband posting, how am i also calling YOU butch?
So you are saying/implying that factually speaking I'm too butch sounding to be anyone but him. So much for questioning it! You are trying to finger as proof what you claim is my lack of femininity in posting style.
Or you are really calling me butch.
Which is it; did you lie about not asserting it's my husband posting or lie about not calling me butch?
If anyone wonders how you came to make those wild claims they can just reread the thread rather than wading into your loooong thread spam.
1PeaceMaker
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TH, whenever you want, we can just revive the portions of our conversation that contain the more interesting unfinished bits. I have questions remaining for you, too. Maybe even another thread would be in order!
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Expect more doublespeak. The only thing necessary for evil to flourish is for good people to do nothing. I'm the only one here who speaks out against the brutality you and your husband face here daily and I get banned for it. This speaks of.explicit approval. I don't know what happened to everyone else. Are they unaware? For those who are aware and silent....shame. Unless you are fearful of becoming an outcast as well and receiving your share of abuse???
This is why I decided to come out of lurking. This decent couple deserves better than this. GFR7 is the only other one to face abuse regularly. There have been a few others and its always the same reason...They dared challenge one of the two untouchables.
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1PeaceMaker
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It's way more fun to let them throw a fit and then put them in their place by way of demonstrated reason. I think that's why they are left here. It would be kinder to the bullies to reign them in, but that's not nearly as entertaining as letting them flame out publicly.
Are you rethinking the concept of evil?
Are you rethinking the concept of evil?
1PeaceMaker
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God's gonna take care of the unruly. TOL will be His instrument if He sees fit to move a moderator to that end. I just hope that people remember that, even if it seems like bullies are getting a free pass. Bullies never get a free pass.
It is always helpful to look in the mirror....
I don't think that was set out clearly and it is a bit confusing. You weren't lonely before you started praying? After your classmates response, etc.?
No, it was a test to see if your hearing was consistent. It isn't that I don't believe God can and often will move things about for our betterment, but I think the notion you have about that seventy percent is a dangerous assumption, which is why I played the "even one" card. I'm not sure God would put you in a position where that's your conclusion...and I don't think He could guarantee a perfect mate, because no one is and no one beyond God will fail to fail us.
So it's okay to ask for a husband, but not for discernment of honesty?
Then you're just talking about growing, not reproduction. A girl could finish with puberty as early as twelve, though on average it's about sixteen.
Sorry, but that's way too early. A girl could enter puberty at ten and be done with puberty by twelve. Guys will take longer and often don't stop growing until they're twenty or twenty one.
I think this thread has run its course for me and gotten well away from my intention in entering it, which was only to note that people really aren't in a good position to enter into marriage until their mid twenties, a fact underscored by a dramatic failure rate prior. The why of it appears to line up pretty convincingly with the development of the prefrontal cortex and it's established role in judgement.
Some of the rest of the conversation took on a life of its own and might make for a better separate thread, one on miracles and God's interaction with the faithful. I think it could be a productive conversation at some point.
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It's way more fun to let them throw a fit and then put them in their place by way of demonstrated reason. I think that's why they are left here. It would be kinder to the bullies to reign them in, but that's not nearly as entertaining as letting them flame out publicly.
Are you rethinking the concept of evil?
I was quoting Edmond Burke. I don't assign a supernatural force to evil. I am just giving it the meaning most people do. It manifests the same way no matter what causes it.