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  • I Lost My Mom/Calvinism is worse than Scum on the Bottom of a Dung Beatles Shoe

    So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through. If I have to hear one more time, from one more person, about how it was her time, how God took her, how her days were predestined and it was just her time to go, I think I'm going to smack dab punch them right dead square in the face.

    That is all.
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  • #2
    People mean well and are just trying to comfort you. It takes lots of time getting use to the loss of a loved one.

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Poly View Post
      So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through.
      I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I hope you and your family are holding together.



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      • #4
        Originally posted by zoo22 View Post
        but folks sure seem to have a need to push their religion on you.
        I think they think it helps, there's not many comforting things to say after a terrible loss.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Poly View Post
          So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through. If I have to hear one more time, from one more person, about how it was her time, how God took her, how her days were predestined and it was just her time to go, I think I'm going to smack dab punch them right dead square in the face.

          That is all.
          I'm a Calvinist. Would NEVER say that. Have never...

          #1) One of my favorite verses John 11:35 "Jesus wept." He was about to raise Lazarus to life, and knew He was going to do it. The women believed he would be raised by God. Yet, "Jesus wept." He was deeply moved by the hurt and love of those missing Lazarus. It is a lesson to us, not to gloss over another's pain as well as an incredible and very meaningful glimpse of the passion of our Lord Jesus Christ and what moves Him. I pray you find comfort and compassion in our Lord Jesus Christ.

          #2) Another verse that has spoken to me deeply, during departures:
          Act 20:36 And when he had said these things, he knelt down and prayed with them all.
          Act 20:37 And there was much weeping on the part of all; they embraced Paul and kissed him,
          Act 20:38 being sorrowful most of all because of the word he had spoken, that they would not see his face again. And they accompanied him to the ship.

          There is every indication that the most Godly, hurt the most deeply and so I pray His blessings and comfort as you rightly grieve her passing.

          #3) Romans 12:15 reminds me to be empathetic, but more so, to mourn with those who mourn. Poly, you have my deepest sympathies, and I may not always cry, but having lost my step-father, I do empathize with your pain and loss. My step-father, when I was 16 asked me not to share the gospel of God's grace and mercy, through Jesus Christ our Lord, again with him. I prayed for 30 years, unable to share Christ with my father. Four years before his death, my father received the Lord Jesus Christ's grace and mercy. I pray encouragement and love for you, comfort and understanding for those who are inept, but perhaps mean well, and that your memories will be filled with the love of friends and strangers who were able to bring you some comfort and tenderness, and I pray my own words and concerns and empathies are as a healing balm, by the grace and mercies of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

          In our Christ, In love, -Lon
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          • #6
            Hello Poly,

            I'm sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. I know how difficult it is to lose your mother because I lost mine in April. May God give you peace and comfort.
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            • #7
              My condolences to you and your family, Poly.
              TRUST
              is a fragile thing.

              Easy to break, Easy to lose
              and one of the hardest things to
              ever get back.







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              • #8
                I was 8 when my mum passed.
                She knew the Lord.

                I would say that the work your mom did was completed in God's eyes. Which is why I can not fear my own death even as I have young children, until the work God has set for me is accomplished I have immortality.

                Sorry for your loss

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Poly View Post
                  So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through. If I have to hear one more time, from one more person, about how it was her time, how God took her, how her days were predestined and it was just her time to go, I think I'm going to smack dab punch them right dead square in the face.

                  That is all.
                  So sorry for your loss. When my mother passed I couldn't even talk about it for a long time. I pray for you.

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                  • #10
                    Condolences. Very sorry to hear it.




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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Poly View Post
                      So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through. If I have to hear one more time, from one more person, about how it was her time, how God took her, how her days were predestined and it was just her time to go, I think I'm going to smack dab punch them right dead square in the face.

                      That is all.
                      I'm sorry about your loss, Poly.
                      I lost my mother in 1990' and my father in 2008.
                      Jer 23:5 Behold, the days come, saith the LORD[YHVH], that I will raise unto David a righteous Branch, and a King shall reign and prosper, and shall execute judgment and justice in the earth.
                      Jer 23:6 In his days Judah shall be saved, and Israel shall dwell safely: and this is his name whereby he[the Branch] shall be called, THE LORD[YHVH] OUR RIGHTEOUSNESS.

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                      • #12
                        Condolences Poly. I would happily sit with you and just cry.


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                        • #13
                          The best thing to say sometimes is nothing, along with a hug. Consider yourself hugged.
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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Poly View Post
                            So I lost my mom a few weeks ago. Hardest thing I've ever had to go through. If I have to hear one more time, from one more person, about how it was her time, how God took her, how her days were predestined and it was just her time to go, I think I'm going to smack dab punch them right dead square in the face.

                            That is all.
                            My mother died at this time last year at 91, as an agnostic atheist I don't expect a hereafter for anyone and still don't, but on the night after her death I dreamed she was young, healthy and happy like I can't recall she ever was in real life. She looked at me, smiled, turned and disappeared as she walked away.
                            Yes it was probably my imagination and projection, but who cares it made me feel good anyway.

                            Perhaps there actually is something else but I don't believe that Calvinists nor any Earthly religion has any better knowledge than I do for all their traditional beliefs and practiced rhetoric.
                            The unknown is what we in fact have, not some silly notions of an elected few and predestination. Who would really want to live eternally in such a place where good people and family have no place, not me.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by alwight View Post
                              My mother died at this time last year at 91, as an agnostic atheist I don't expect a hereafter for anyone and still don't, but on the night after her death I dreamed she was young, healthy and happy like I can't recall she ever was in real life. She looked at me, smiled, turned and disappeared as she walked away.
                              Yes it was probably my imagination and projection, but who cares it made me feel good anyway.

                              Perhaps there actually is something else but I don't believe that Calvinists nor any Earthly religion has any better knowledge than I do for all their traditional beliefs and practiced rhetoric.
                              The unknown is what we in fact have, not some silly notions of an elected few and predestination. Who would really want to live eternally in such a place where good people and family have no place, not me.
                              Not to spin off too much but you don't need to be a Calvinist to say "well, it was just their time."

                              Poly, condolences again.




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